Episode 143: Releasing Perfectionism as an Avoidance of Shame and Embracing Messiness

Is your inner perfectionist running the show?
That voice that says, “You’re only safe if you do it right.”
That tension in your chest when things feel just a little too messy?

In this episode, I’m breaking down what perfectionism really is (spoiler: it’s not about being neat) — and the deeper attachment wounds that often drive it. We’ll explore where perfectionism stems from, how your nervous system gets caught in survival mode trying to “get it all right,” and most importantly, how to start loosening your grip and trusting the beautiful mess of being human.

I’ll share:
What perfectionism actually is — and isn’t
The root causes underneath the need to control or perform
Tangible shifts to begin softening into more grace, space, and self-trust

If you’ve ever felt exhausted from always trying to do more or be better… this one’s for you.

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